Thursday, September 11, 2014

Are You Doing the Right Things in Life?

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Efficiency is doing things right. Effectiveness is doing the right things. - Peter Drucker

Before you find out whether you are doing the right things or no, find out the things that are important in your life and also your goals and aspirations. It goes without saying that your health, family, career, money, friends and happiness mean a lot to you. Your goals and your purpose in life are tie with things that you are good at. Perhaps you want to write a few inspiring books if you are at words. As a person good in analyzing figures, you may want to be an accountant.    

How do you find out if you are doing the right things?   

1.     A time to reflect: It is necessary to take time off to review your activities.  You can do it at the end of the day, on every Sunday evening, at the end of every month and at the end of a year. The purpose is to find whether you are spending time productively:

·        Doing  exercise
·        with family
·        managing your money  
·        learning  and upgrading
·        keeping in touch with  your friends and closed ones

2.     Before doing anything ask yourself three questions. What is your purpose of doing this? Are you doing it the right way? Can you do it in a different way to get a better result? By asking this question, you avoid doing things that are irrelevant and wasting your time. It is also for you to thank and make changes and seek improvement and be more productive in your approach.

3.     Are you living your own life or following the life of others? Do not worry about what others think of you. Live your life and do what you have to do. You have your dreams and purpose in life. The most important thing is to capitalize on your talents and do the best you can with what you have.  

It is easier to live through someone else than to become complete yourself.
--Betty Friedan

4.     Are you happy with what you do every day? It is an issue relating to your job and career. Is it something you enjoy doing? It is challenging enough to excite you and get you into the flow while at work? Are you able to unleash your potential capabilities?

5.     How do you look at failures and setbacks in your life? It is an opportunity to examine closely the situation.  It could be a chance for you to take the challenge, solve the problems and make progress in life or it could be a hint that you are heading the wrong direction.

You are doing the right things when your daily activities are aligned to those things you treasure in life and are closely relating to your goals. You need to examine if you are doing it efficiently.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

-- Mohandas K. Gandhi

Monday, September 8, 2014

10 Simple Things You Can Do to Make You Happy

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Happiness is about what you think and what you decide to do. Thinking and doing the right things will bring you happiness abundantly. Here are 10 simple things you can do to make you happy: 

1.       Think positive thoughts: When you get up in the morning just make up your mind and decide to have a happy day. This is a choice for you to radiate joyfulness throughout the whole day. Happiness will transform a normal day into a delightful day in whatever you do.

Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response. ~Mildred Barthel

2.         Exercise: According to an article, Exercise Makes Us Happy -- It's Science, We know that regular fitness is good for the heart and that it can help the body to build muscles and maintain a healthy weight. But it also spurs the release of endorphins, those feel-good chemicals that promote happiness. So, stop watching TV, get up and be active.

3.       The great outdoors: Spending time in nature is a great way to feel good and relaxed, be it on the beach, in the county, up the mountain or down in the valley.

4.       Spend time with family and friends: Happiness is connecting with people closed to you. Happiness is also about spending money on your friends like going to a movie or enjoying tea in the afternoon.

5.       Sleep well: Happiness is about sweet dreams. A good night’s sleep rejuvenates and energizes you. You are fresh and alert the next day. You feel good about yourself and you are in control.

6.       Be grateful:  Be appreciative of the things that you have. Don't be jealous and envious of others. Just think that you are better off than many other people. Comparisons will disturb your peace of mind and calmness. Write a few things that you are grateful for in your journal in the evening to end a day happily. 

7.       Start a new day early: According to an article, Early Risers are Happier, Healthier and More Productive Than Night Owls,  early risers are generally happier than night owls. More than 700 respondents, ranging from ages 17-79 were surveyed and asked about their emotional state, health and preferred time of day. Self-professed morning people reported feeling happier and healthier than night owls. Morning people are more productive and they get the most important things done. Happiness is starting a new day early and be more productive.

8.       Read and learn new things: Reading inspires, educates, enlightens and motivates you. Every time you learn something new it gives you the Aha moment. Happiness is the excitement of discovery and realization.

9.       Do good: You will find the greatest joy in kindness. Find every opportunity to help others. Perform random acts of kindness like smiling and waving at people you meet, holding the door for the person behind you, saying think you to the casher and complementing your friend for her new dress.

10.    Live every moment: According to an article, Why You Should Treasure Apparently Mundane Moments in Life, it’s worth bearing in mind our tendency to undervalue the pleasure we will get in the future from what seem like everyday moments right now.. Focus on what you do every day, concentrate on the task hand, enjoy every moment in life and turn an ordinary day into an extraordinary experience.

If you are not happy here and now, you never will be. ~Taisen Deshimaru

Are you doing things that make you happy?

Thursday, September 4, 2014

20 Inspiring Quotes to Live By

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Quotes about success, happiness, love and life to inspire and motivate you:

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. -Albert Schweitzer

Unhappiness is the hunger to get; happiness is the hunger to give. . . . If the individual should set out for a single day to give happiness, to make life happier, brighter and sweeter, not for himself but for others, he would find a wondrous revelation of what happiness really is. -William George Jordan 

Happiness isn’t about what happens to us — it’s about how we perceive what happens to us. It’s the knack of finding a positive for every negative, and viewing a setback as a challenge. If we can just stop wishing for what we don’t have, and start enjoying what we do have, our lives can be richer; more fulfilled — and happier. The time to be happy is now. -Lynn Peters.

 One thing I learn about happiness: It's made, not found. If you want to be happy, you must create it yourself. -Wilson Kanadi

True happiness involves the full use of one's power and talents. -John Gardner

Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life. -Thich Nhat Hanh

Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy -- because we will always want to have something else or something more. - David Steindl-Rast

Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. _Joshua J. Marine

Never walk away from failure. On the contrary, study it carefully and imaginatively for its hidden assets. -Michael Korda

Desire is the key to motivation, but it's the determination and commitment to an relenting pursuit of your goal-- a commitment to excellence--that enable you to attain the success you seek.Mario Andretti Race car driver

You are a success when you have made friends with your past, are focused on the present, and are optimistic about your future. -Zig Ziglar

Getting what you go after is success; but liking it while you are getting it is happiness.-Bertha Damon

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. -Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
Philosopher and writer

Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds us down or polish us up depends on us. -L. Thomas Holdcroft

It is better to look ahead and prepare than to look back and regret. -Jackie Joyner-Kersee
Olympic track and field champion

Life itself is a party; you join after it's started, and you leave before it's finished. -Elsa Maxwell

Love lights more fire than hate extinguishers. -Ella Wheeler Wilcox

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. --MIGNON MCLAUGHLIN Writer

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. -Lucille Ball (1911-1989)

Live-decently, fearlessly, joyously- and don't forget that in the long run it is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts! -Adlai Stevenson (1900-1965) Statesman

Monday, September 1, 2014

7 Productive Habits to Start a New Day

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Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail. - Og Mandino

A new day is a fresh beginning. To make the best of a new day here are the ways to do it productively: 

1.      Zest:  Feel good about yourself and ready to take on a new day with energy. You will look forward to a new day with enthusiasm and excitement.

2.      Positive: Start a new day with a positive mental attitude. Be confident, hopeful and expect wonderful things to happen.

3.      Focus: Avoid thinking about the past or the future. A new day is a time to focus in the present and live every moment. Concentrate on the task at hand and do the best you can. You are judged by the quality of your work and you will be proud of yourself.

4.      The most important tasks: You have more creative power in the morning Start a new day and do the most important tasks. Usually an important assignment is not an easy one, so it is best to tackle it in the morning.  

5.      Early: A new day is only good when you get up early.  You are calm because there is no need to rush about to get things done. Early morning is also the time you can do work with less distractions.

6.      Prepared: To be productive in a new day is to plan the night before with a to-do list. You will be in control and ready to do first thing first.

7.      Productive routine: A good day starts with a good night’s sleep. When you wake up you are truly refreshed to start a new day right and get a productive day ahead of you.  When you get up drink a glass of water, stretch your body, meditate or play Tai chi, read motivational quotes, and enjoy a nutritional breakfast with coffee to power up a new day.

How do you start a new day productively? 

Thursday, August 28, 2014


“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” - Leo Buscaglia

Before I talk about the 10 things not to worry about, read this story first: 

The Carpenter I hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit, and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start. While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.

On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.

Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.

"Oh, that's my trouble tree", he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again."

"Funny thing is", he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."
Author unknown

In most cases, taking action is the only way to combat your worries. Find out what you can do about your anxieties

1.      Jobless: Instead of worrying about getting retrenched, do the best you can to keep your job. Learn new skills, do things beyond your job scope, ask for new assignments, stay cheerful and act confidently.

2.      Failures: Failures are not bad things, it means you have tried. You just need to be smart and do it differently.

3.      What others think of you: What others think of you is none of your business. Besides what you think others are thinking about you is only in your own mind. Live the way you are, be free and be contented.  

4.      Aging: I am a baby boomer, but it does not worry me a bit. I just keep doing the right things such as  jogging regularly, eating healthily and staying cheerful and happy. I am concerned about my retirement fund so I continue to work and earn more. I wake early in the morning because there is something to do every day and I enjoy doing it.

5.      Death: Death is inevitable. The best thing you can do is to live life fully. Spend time with love ones and say the words you want to say, meet up with those you wish you had time to see them and do the things that make you happy. When the day finally arrives you have no regret.

6.      The future: Nobody knows what is going to happen, but you can always envisage the future, live the future now. Imagine the future is now and live the life of your choice.

7.      Bad things to happen: Negative thoughts mean thinking of what can go wrong. It is not a bad idea if you look at it constructively. As an example when you are driving out of town you are thinking of accidents on the road. It reminds you to drive with care and without speeding.

8.      Things beyond your control: It is not a fair world, the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer. Innocent people are killed in conflicts every day. Just pray.

9.      Your work: Instead of worrying about too much work to do, spend time to organize your workload and focus on doing one task at a time  and complete the most important ones.

10.  Outcome: You have an end result in mind but you have to concentrate on the processes and techniques to attain the expected outcome. Live in the present and enjoy the process and be happy. You are more likely to achieve your aim without an attachment to the results.

Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. -Walter Anderson

Monday, August 25, 2014

7 Smart Ways to Protect Your Children

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Danger is lurking for your children, even when they are at home. Here are 7 wise ways to minimize anything unpleasant to happen.
Alone at home: Inform your child not to tell anyone on the phone that you are alone at home. Teach your child to call you in case of emergency. Make sure that your child is able to lock and unlock doors and windows. 

Internet: Be aware of your child’s activities on the Net. Inform your child not to provide personal information such as home address, telephone number or school name online. Highlight to your child that the person he is talking to may not be who he claims to be. Never allow your child to arrange for a face-to-face meeting with anyone without your permission. According to an article, Smartphone Pictures Can Give Away Your Location.Taking photo of your innocent child taken with your smartphone and post it online is risky because people can trace the location where the image is taken.
Public area: To avoid abduction educate your child not to accept things from strangers and not to allow others to touch you. Teach your child not to do anything alone. Ignore adult who approaches you for help, It can be a trick. The person should get help from another adult. The best thing to do is for your child to run away to a place with a lot of people.

On the road: Never leave your child alone in the car even for a short while. Be aware of another car bumping into yours at isolated spots; it may not be an accident. Drive on to avoid untoward incident.

Technology: If your child is using iPad or iPhone, you can locate the where about of your child. You can monitor if he or she is on the right route to their destination. When your child is at a different location be alert and find out why.  Find out more about Apple’s iCloud to locate your devices at Find my iPhone, Ipad and Mac.

Communicate with your child: Be open and approachable so that your child will find it easy to talk to you.  Tell your child that he can talk to you about anything and everything   Listen, believe and trust what your child tells you.

Educate your child: As soon as children are learning the body parts, you can introduce the right vocabulary for their private parts such as penis, vagina, breasts and buttocks. Dr. Ian Russ, Ph.D., says that, "If children don't have the vocabulary to talk about their body parts, then if something happens they can't tell anybody. They know that it's off-limits to talk about. They can't get help." By telling your children the right words to use they will feel comfortable to tell you should something bad does happen to them.

How do you protect your child?

Thursday, August 21, 2014

What is Personal Integrity?

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Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not. - Oprah Winfrey

Jaycee Chan, the son of Jackie Chan, was caught and retained recently by Beijing police on suspicion of accommodating suspected drug users, official Xinhua news agency reported. Police seized more than 100g of cannabis from Chan’s house, in a swoop which also saw a Taiwanese actor known as Kai Ko detained on drug charges.  Jackie Chan has been a government “anti-drug ambassador” since 2009. Is he going to embrace integrity in his son’s case? 

Integrity is to

1.     Be trustworthy and do what you have promised to do.

2.     Return extra change to the cashier

3.     Return to the shop to pay for something you have forgotten to pay.

4.     Be honest in all your relationships with others.

5.     Not talking bad  about somebody behind his back

6.     Pay your bills fully and promptly to maintain your excellent credit rating.

7.     Not using office supplies for personal use

8.     Admit a wrong doing and apologize for it.

9.     Express recognition for the contributions of others and not take credit for their achievement. 

10.     Disassociate with people of questionable integrity

11.    Remain faithful to spouse

12.     Be responsible at work and not blaming others for  mistakes made

13.      Be consistent in doing the right things

14.   Treat others with fairness, kindness and compassion

15.   Find and return to the rightful owner when you pick up a purse in the        street  

16.     Take pride in your work, do the best you can

17.      Be considerate of other road users, avoid speeding and give clear signals early.

18.     Be competent at work and be a role model

19.     Be willing to change because things are changing 

20.   Treat others like how you want to be treated. 

What is your take about personal integrity?
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